Jake Myers

Hi Jake, So, my husband sent me the Queerty article this week about Kristi Noem's husband allegedly being into “bimbofication,” and he was going off about it. I laughed along in the moment… but the problem is: I didn’t totally feel like I was laughing."

"Hi Jake, I hooked up with this guy recently, and only found out in a “doorknob” comment on my way out of his apartment that he’s in an open relationship. He hadn’t mentioned anything about it beforehand."

"Hi Jake, But here’s the real truth: he’s a flight attendant for United, and he hooks me up with really cheap—or sometimes free—flights using buddy passes. We’ve met up in different cities, stayed in nice hotels, and had a genuinely fun time exploring together. I’ve even convinced him to help me snag last-minute standby flights on my own to visit family or take other trips without him."

"Hi Jake, Last week, I saw something weird. We were going over expenses, and I noticed a deposit on his screen that didn’t line up with what I thought he made. When I asked, he admitted after some back and forth that he actually earns significantly more than he’s led me to believe and has been quietly siphoning part of each paycheck into a separate account I knew nothing about."

"Hi Jake, I think I’m addicted to cruising… but it’s not even for the hookup. What’s exciting to me is the eye contact, the silent back-and-forth, the head nod that feels like a win. It’s about the chase more than actually doing anything."

"Hi Jake, That said, the last time I saw his profile, it was just a few suggestive gym progress pics. Now I’ve found out he’s been building a much more explicit presence than I realized, and it’s starting to blow up."

Hi Jake, I'm a 75-year-old lesbian and have never written to an advice column before. But last week, something happened that I'm struggling to wrap my head around.

Hi Jake, My husband and I started an online business together a few years ago as a side project. At first, it felt like a dream.

"Objectively, I know this is sweet. But it also makes me incredibly self-conscious. Sometimes I even feel weirdly repulsed by it."

"Hi Jake, A few weeks ago, a group of friends and I ended up back at someone's house after a night out. Long story short, I hooked up with a woman. My boyfriend wasn't there, but I told him about it the next day because that's what we'd agreed to do. I expected him to laugh or maybe be surprised. Instead, he got really upset."