Sera Bozza

Self-awareness became dating's highest virtue. We are the most psychologically literate generation of daters in history. And somehow, also the most avoidant.

Our brains are not built for the volume of stimulation we're currently absorbing. And it's costing people more than they realise when it comes to finding and keeping love.

Your friends aren't giving you objective advice. They're running your new person through everything that's ever gone wrong in their relationships and reporting back.

If you want to be good at modern dating, the worst thing you can do is actually be good at relationships. That's not a paradox – it’s just how the system works now.

Why singles are rejecting date-maxxing

People used to hide their emotional unavailability. Now they explain it so well you mistake it for growth.

Psychology gave us four attachment styles, all built around absence. But modern dating happens in a world where nobody ever seems fully gone.

It’s the phrase that’s taken over modern dating – and it’s almost impossible to argue against. But is dating disturbing your peace or exposing how fragile that peace really is?

What if dating isn't getting worse? What if it is losing to better entertainment?

Analysis is avoidance