J.P. Brammer

Our time and attention are precious resources, and if it feels like someone isn’t honoring yours, you should nip that in the bud.

Friendships are jungle gyms for our insecurities.

You’re not a bad person for hurting or for being angry.

Here it is, the ¡Hola Papi! friendship field guide for people whose backs are just starting to make alarming noises.

In my experience, people-pleasing develops as a way to minimize conflict.

Make an earnest attempt to get to know each other. That involves a lot of listening.

I’m sorry to report that this is one of those “if you have to ask” questions.

Forget the high stakes you’re imposing and try to focus on how nice it is simply to be in contact with another human being.

It’ll take some work, but it is possible to be in a mixed friendship (half-stan, half-functioning adult).

Ah, yes, Pride season — a time for us to come together as a community and argue about “spaces” and who or what is acceptable in them.