“‘No' is one of those short, primal words from very early in language development. When said, it's invariably accompanied by obvious, often unconscious, changes in your body language and tone. If that denial is unexpected, questionable, or delivered in a paternalistic way we should not be surprised by the similarly primitive emotions like anger and sadness such a word provokes. The doctor-patient relationship is too important to risk, it must be protected. You will have to say no at some point, and there are steps you can take to reduce the unpleasantness of refusal.
Abi Rimmer is the Editor at BMJ Careers. She covers a range of topics including health and wellness, HR and workforce issues, and careers and employment, with a focus on social issues and business economics in the United Kingdom and academia. Abi's work has been featured in BMJ and the South African Journal of Chemistry.