Dan Savage

My wife and I are a lesbian married couple in Chicago. We are also proud moms to our wonderful, dynamic 17-year-old trans son. “Michael” is a great kid, and we have always enjoyed a close relationship.

My wife and I are a lesbian married couple in Chicago. We are also proud moms to our wonderful, dynamic 17-year-old trans son. “Michael” is a great kid, and we have always enjoyed a close relationship. It has recently come to light that he is engaging in penetrative sex with men he meets on a gay hookup app. We discovered this because of bloody laundry which we thought was breakthrough bleeding, a trip to his gender doc and a subsequent chlamydia diagnosis brought this all out. Since this revelation — and after a lecture about safe-sex practices — I am now living in a state of terror. I’m terrified our son will be a victim of sexual violence. I am terrified that he will be emotionally scarred by some fetishist. I am terrified he will get a life-threatening STI. My instincts are telling me to take a leave from work, and whisk him away from the city and talk and talk until he sees the danger of this behavior. Is that an over-reaction? Are there therapists who specialize in this? Is there any way this will work out well for him? I desperately want to do right by my son, and he is acting like this is “no big deal,” but my mama instincts are screaming shut this down!

“Every gay man should know how to use Grindr, but we all need to remember that it’s just like any social media app — useful, addictive, toxic — and it should never, ever replace real life interactions,” said queer author and filmmaker Leo Herrera. “Right now, gay men of all ages are walking away from the apps and embracing tradition: picking up strangers in bars and bathhouses and parks. Learn the basics of analog cruising so you’re not dependent on Grindr.”

The Orlando Magic are aiming for a bounce-back performance when they host the Denver Nuggets on Sunday at 6 p.m. ET.

The Orlando Magic will attempt to get back on track when they head across the border to face the Toronto Raptors on Tuesday at 7:30 p.m. ET.

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The Orlando Magic could have a few more familiar faces back in the lineup, potentially including Franz Wagner, when they host the Portland Trail Blazers on Thursday at 7 p.m. ET.

The Orlando Magic look to up their energy and snap a five-game losing streak when they host the Detroit Pistons on Saturday at 7 p.m. ET.